tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8343382610723218728.post7766742668675618712..comments2018-11-03T23:53:39.055-04:00Comments on SydandDensDad: Lack of Discipline!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00057538442944466989noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8343382610723218728.post-53261581047028409422010-11-13T01:28:51.216-05:002010-11-13T01:28:51.216-05:00Eric, thanks for the comment. That's actually ...Eric, thanks for the comment. That's actually a really great idea. I think I'm going to use the color idea with my oldest. I think my 2yo might be too young just yet.<br />Texas Trio, thanks for the comment. I know what you mean about the tantrums. I've tried timeout like I said, it just doesn't work. I try to be tough, but I always end up caving. That may be where the problem lies huh?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00057538442944466989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8343382610723218728.post-11226434725607040612010-11-12T13:52:29.986-05:002010-11-12T13:52:29.986-05:00Its a tough job raising children Denny, but alteas...Its a tough job raising children Denny, but alteast your a parent who tries and do the right thing instead of letting them get away with murder, (which would be much easier on you and Stacy but bad for them in the long run). The other thing I noticed is the fact that you said you try to mix things up a little for them so they dont get bored, children NEED cosistency, you have to keep them on a schedule so they know what to expect, when it comes to there routine and there disipline. Knowing what is going to happen every day for them is very important so when they do get in trouble they automaticly know what the consequences are going to be. Other wise guessing everytime doesnt teach them anything. Hang in there, I theink your doing a great job and everything will pay off in the end when you get to spoil there children then send them home to them!!!! loltanyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8343382610723218728.post-68781633786425614902010-11-12T11:38:27.780-05:002010-11-12T11:38:27.780-05:00This is the tough part of the job and this isn'...This is the tough part of the job and this isn't news to you either. We've gone thru a few things to and fix the street fights we have from time to time.<br /><br />One we've used with varying results was, red/yellow/green statuses. I made sheets from construction paper with the colors for each of the kids. As long as they were good they stayed on green. if they misbehaved, we'd tell them we're moving them to yellow. They'd get upset and we'd tell them to behave and when they did or said they're sorry, we'd put them back. If they did something REALLY bad.. they go to red. As long as they made amends we moved them back to green. The purpose was not to keep them on yellow or red, but where they would want to avoid it at all costs and stay on green.ericdboltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18305908483248416054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8343382610723218728.post-20492106013829214422010-11-12T08:36:47.091-05:002010-11-12T08:36:47.091-05:00I hear you Brother! I have not read Love and Logi...I hear you Brother! I have not read Love and Logic but I heard it is great and that I (usually) do what it recommends. That being said each kid is different, just like employees are different. It might sound weird but I try to treat them like employees. Give them choices and hold them accountable for their decisions. I had a lengthly conversation with one of my trio the other day about how he chose to go to time out in his room by himself and stay there for 20 minutes because he was yelling. <br /><br />The tough part? You end up punishing yourself too. But the pay off is HUGE in the long run. At least I am betting it is:) I shot a video of my little "princess" pitching a six minute fit because I would not carry her to the table. Why didn't I? Because she did not ask nicely. It also took one of my boys about an hour to do his two minute time out correctly, standing in the corner quietly without playing. <br /><br />Good luck, you are in my prayers,<br /><br />AlThe Texas Triohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12367358435612836702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8343382610723218728.post-44395211479753096932010-11-12T07:05:34.920-05:002010-11-12T07:05:34.920-05:00okay denny, i have an idea for you if you are up f...okay denny, i have an idea for you if you are up for it...which it sounds like you probably are up for anything by this point. :) so i have learned about something called "Love and Logic". It can be used on children as young as infants. It is a different way of teaching discipline...giving them choices and letting them know that they have consequences that depend upon which choice THEY make. I'm not a master in the subject, but I have learned that it is VERY effective. I am sure you can find it online somewhere. It is a system you have to purchase, but from what I have heard from my social work professor and some day care workers is that it works miracles. If you are willing to give it a try...it is definately worth purchasing.<br /><br />By the way...yet another great blog! I know it got u mad, but the part about Denny head butting you was too funny! :)Daniellenoreply@blogger.com