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Thursday, October 7, 2010

Life Choices

What a GREAT DAY!!!
I remember when I really decided I wanted to be a dad. In reality, I've known my entire life that I wanted to have kids. But, there was a moment when it really kicked in for me. My wife and I had been married for about six months when I woke up and remembered a dream that I had had. I don't remember the dream right now, but I know it made me realize that there is no time like the present. I remember waking my wife up and telling her that we had to start trying to have a baby. There was something about my dream that told me that there was no sense in waiting a while longer like we were planning on doing. I wanted to start right then. And no, it wasn't just waking up horny, I was thinking about a family. From that point forward I had made a choice to put the life of someone else before my own. Sure, my wife's life is more important to me than my own, but the way I look at is that adults have the ability to make poor choices and she could make a choice that would make us not be together anymore. Not that I believe for even the tiniest of seconds that she would, but you get my point. But your kids are your kids forever. Once I decided that it was time to start a family, there was no turning back. And sure, I didn't really know what I was in for. I had no idea that having kids was so difficult at times. I had heard horror stories about sleepless nights, and diapers that explode, and toxic vomit. I heard all of those things and more. But, when you're wanting to start a family all you think about is the cuteness and the great days. Well, today was one of those days.!
Melting my heart.
My kids were not perfect today, but they were close. We had an amazing family day, the kind you think about when you are thinking of what your future family will be like. There was no fighting, no whining, no crabbiness. We went looking for Halloween costumes, and then were begged to go to a restaurant for dinner. We don't go out to eat very often for a couple of reasons. First, we are as you might say, not rich. Secondly, well, you haven't met my son but if you've read this blog at all you know he is best described as "active." Well, we relented and went to Ponderosa for dinner. This was after buying the kids a couple of Phineas and Ferb shirts at the store. I thought my boy's head was going to explode from the excitement. At dinner, they sat and ate quietly. They did what they were asked to do. Everything went great. Then it happened. I'll bet you're waiting for me to tell you some horror story about misbehaving in public again aren't you? I'll even bet that you think I'm going to tell you about some crazy exploding diaper or something just generally unpleasant. Well, I'm not going to. My wife was up getting something from the buffet when a waitress came over to clear some plates and noticed the Phineas and Ferb shirts that the kids of course had to put on immediately. She was talking to my daughter about how she liked watching the show and both of my kids were engaged in the conversation. Then my daughter said to the waitress "My Daddy is the Greatest."  The lady looked at me and had one of those "oh, how sweet" looks on her face. What she saw was a grown man fighting back tears in a public place. I must be doing something right for my little girl to say something like that without being prompted in the least bit. Holy crap, what a daughter!
But wait, there's more. We left there and went to Wally World to get the costumes we had settled on. They both need accessories, but at least we were getting the costume ball rolling. My wife got the girl out of the van on her side while I got the boy out on mine. The girls were a little ahead of us on the way into the store and for some reason my son wanted me to carry him. I picked him up and he proceeded to put his arms around my neck in the biggest hug he's ever given. He then started kissing me on the cheek and turned my face to get the other cheek. Holy crap! What did I do to deserve this treatment?
Life Choices.
There are choices in life that don't work out for you. Like having that last shot that ends up making your world spin and puts you down for the count. Or, asking an unpregnant woman when she is due. Or, telling a girl that her and her sister kiss just alike. Then there are choices that do work out for you. I made the choice to become a father and it couldn't have worked out better. I put a picture of my two beautiful kids at the top of this post, but the picture I'll have of today is not the one you can see here. It's of my kids letting me know that not only did I make the right choice, but that I have the two greatest kids in the world. What a day!!!
I found another good blog.
So, as I've mentioned, in my travels around the blog world I occasionally come across some really good blogs. I found another one that I really like and I think you will to. He's a father of two girls and uses video a few time to blog. I really like it.
Well, I hope your day was even half as good as mine, and hope to hear from you soon. Have a great night.


  1. Sometimes I seriously don't know what I do to deserve my kids' appreciation! It's a good feeling to be a hero to the kids even if to the rest of the world I'm just "some dude". That alone makes being a dad worthwhile! Great post, Dennis!

  2. Thanks Keith. Isn't it a great feeling knowing that you must be doing something right?