I'll just say this about my kids and discipline: There seems to be none! I try to straddle that line between a tough guy and their best buddy, but I end up on the buddy side more times than not. Even when I get upset and give them crap, I end up caving. I have patience issues with both of my kids and my wife, but deep down I'm a softy. I think it's partially why my kids seem to be favoring me over their mother right now. I am with them so much and being nothing more than a big kid myself, I play with them so much more than anything else. I feel guilty every single time I have to get after them. I believe that kids need discipline in their lives, and I don't know if I am doing a very good job of it up to this point. I can NOT get my son to keep from playing with electrical cords and outlets. I get after him every single time, in a variety of manners, but he just will not listen to me. I think it's somewhat important to keep him alive, and I THINK that maybe it's good idea to keep him away from the electrical outlets. Just a thought.
It goes back to my thoughts on discipline. How do I get my kids to listen to me? I was brought up to do exactly what my parents said, when they said it, or else there was consequences that were not desirable. I got my ass whupped more than a few times, and I don't really like the idea of my kids being afraid of me like I was of my parents. Yes, I have gotten after my kids with volume, and I have my patience issues, but I don't think they are afraid of me. I think that's good right? However, they won't listen to me at all. I mentioned the electrical outlet issue, but he won't quit opening the DVD player either. I have even whacked him on the butt, and swatted his hands, doesn't work. He does what he wants. Then just tonight, Sydney and I were in the basement and she grabbed a book from the box and I told her to leave it downstairs, that's where it belongs. She just kept it and went up the stairs. It really feels like I speak a different language than my kids. I guess my question to anyone reading this is, how do I get them to do what they are told, but also not be afraid of me? I need that happy medium and don't know how to get it. HELP!!!
Please leave me any ideas, because I want to be a better Daddy.
Thanks, and always remember it is what it is.